She called me this morning while I was at work and left me a voicemail. She was upset and crying, and told her side of the story. And he called me this evening, and we talked for about 45 minutes, I mostly just listened. I figure that if I was in the same situation, I'd just want someone to listen to my thoughts and feelings, and help me feel not alone in them. I guess that he called me because he wanted a female perspective maybe. And because Dallas doesn't say a lot on the phone, to anyone. He's not a phone guy.
Is it selfish of me to wonder how I need to handle this? I love them both. I love Julie, but since he is my father in law, do my loyalties lie solely with him? Do I need to just cut ties with her? Is it possible to keep a friendship with her and him? My life doesn't need anymore broken awkward family ties it, I can assure you. But I so rarely make a connection with someone, that I hate to just give it up. But I don't want Steve to think that I am picking sides, because I'm not. I guess that since it's all still so new, all I can do is wait to see what becomes of it all. For all I know, she will want to cut ties with me, because I am the daughter in law.
And I feel bad for them, I've never gone through a divorce myself. But I have gone through them as a younger person, and it was hard. The tension was awful. I hope that they can work through this quickly, without any of the petty stuff that can happen during rough times. I hope they can both find peace, and peace of mind. And find their happiness, because that is what we're all looking for. I would be devastating to think that I had found my happiness and then come to realize that I hadn't.
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